Did that get your attention? Occasionally geneology is just sad and you never want to search again. That is one thing I discovered about my grandmother’s sister and her husband. It was one of the times I was actually shocked and stunned. I am blocking out names out of respect.
Suffice it to say I did not put any of this information on my tree but have kept the records in a private place.
And another sad one. An unwed mother, a workhouse and then vanished.
My third great grandmother had a baby out of wedlock. Was the father the boy next door? Was she raped? Was she molested? I will never know. But that isn’t the saddest part. This is Mary A E Dougherty. (Ignotus means unknown.)
Here it shows her as a single, unwed mother.
There is then a census showing her in a Weymouth workhouse.
And then she simply disappeared. 25 years old. Gone. You have to understand. Third great grandparents did not just disappear. I have researched all my 3rd great grandparents and have gone beyond them with no problem. They kept precise and excellent records in the 1800’s. But Mary just disappeared. At first I found a Mary Dougherty that was sent to Van Dieman’s land but she turned out to not be my Mary. The dates didn’t match. Then I looked into the workhouse records but after much searching I discovered that they had been lost in a fire. Every lead I researched diligently and each time I came up with nothing conclusive. Did she die in the workhouse? Did she leave? If she did she surely fell into prostitution. No man would have taken on “damaged goods” and there would have been no sustainable employment for her. I have checked later censuses to see if she went to live with her son but no, she didn’t show up there either. I imagine she is now in an unmarked paupers grave. And I want her to know that I have tried to lay her to rest. I want her to know that someone thinks about her and thanks her for her part in my life. And now you all know about her too.