I just upgraded my blog so it’s ad free and I will apparently get my own domain name. Not sure how this works yet but I find the ads annoying and distracting.

I found work today upsetting. One of the people I care for lives alone and shouldn’t. She needs help. The worker this morning left her sitting in her kitchen chair even though it is highlighted 4 different times in the careplan not to. I mentioned her a couple of weeks ago because she got stuck in her lift chair and had wet herself. Today she was sitting in feces for I don’t know how long. She doesn’t have the understanding to use her phone that was right in front of her to call her daughter or to press her lifeline and summon help. Physically she finds it difficult to stand on her own but with verbal cues she can. It breaks my heart. I call and report, nothing is ever done. Every time I get told that my concern will be forwarded to the case manager. Today I got really upset when I was talking to the nurse. I said if this was a three year old and she had been left sitting at a table for four or five hours the parents would be charged with neglect and she would be removed from the home and put into a safe place where she would be cared for. I think the nurse took me a little more seriously when I explained it that way but she too is helpless in her desire to help. We are “just support workers”. She is “just a practical nurse”. We are the lowest on the health care totem pole. The case manger makes all decisions. She sees the client once a year at best and holds all the power. They get special parking spots and have evenings and weekends off. I have been told so many times that the case manager has special insight to these cases. I call bullshit. The lady I saw today is someone I see at least once a week. I can tell you how she likes her tea and what food she has in her cupboard. I can tell you what makes her a laugh and the names of both her cats. But the case manager has special insight. You know, I love Universal Healthcare but it’s a broken system. It needs fixing. Our mandate should be caring for the most vulnerable in society and listening to the people who care for them.

Okay, rant over. Does my blog look different now that the ads are gone?

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  1. Heartbreaking. Is the daughter reachable? I know my mom’s home care workers called us about everything and it was much appreciated. We really looked to their input back when we didn’ t know if it was time for placement. Hugs. You are such a good-hearted person, the people you care for are so fortunate to have you.

  2. Yeah- I’ve never noticed ads on your blog either! What’s up with that?
    Dammit. You absolutely described what had happened to your client perfectly. Have you ever thought about writing Justin Tredeau a letter? Nothing at all may happen but you will have known that you did your part. I love you for your caring, Birdie. So much.

  3. Hi Birdie – I have been trying to comment but my devices go from being able to comment on blogs to not. I hope you get this. I am glad you are out there taking care of people because you have a giant heart and you care. Sending a virtual hug. Jo

  4. You have moved me to tears of inarticulate rage and grief. When, when, when will the front line workers be listened to and given the respect they deserve. Then, and only then, will the people they are caring for will receive the care they need and deserve.

  5. Your blog is much calmer and more serene now! Nice job! I’m shocked by the lack of compassion towards aging and the elderly in our death-denying youth culture. We are often disgusted by the elderly and the sick. All too often we look the other way and pretend we’ll never grow old. When I read about kind souls like you who actually care and build relationships, it gives me hope. But the case worker is too far removed. It is likely all theoretical for her. I am so thankful this old woman has you to check in on her. But you are right, she probably shouldn’t be living alone anymore. Heartbreaking.

  6. Birdie, try phoning and reporting the situation to the Office of the Public Guardian and Trustee of British Columbia. If it’s not within their mandate to intervene directly, they will likely know of an agency who could.

  7. I never noticed any ads either. Why isn’t the woman living in assisted living. She obviously can’t manage on her own and not even with extensive help. My aunt is like that. She didn’t want to go into care but broke her leg and didn’t have any choice. Now she still wants to go home. She can’t even turn herself over in bed, has the use of her left hang only but thinks she will be fine at home. She’s also mentally with it, kinda. I say kinda because she thinks she can manage just fine at home alone.

    But your client needs more help than homecare can give her. I want to die before I end up like that.

  8. I’ve never seen an ad on your blog either. And you are truly an amazing soul Birdie.
    Love you friend.

    Angels Unaware by Connie Campbell Bratcher

    You never know as you meet someone
    Just what might be their need.
    Sometimes a warm smile or handshake
    Is all it takes to plant a fruitful seed.
    Other times you may need to speak a word
    Of encouragement to a sister or brother,
    Or share your faith along the way
    As God gives opportunity with another.
    When you meet with a hurting neighbor
    Along side of your journey’s road,
    Be sure to reach out with a loving hand
    And help carry their heavy load;
    For you never know on life’s pathway
    Just who you might meet there…
    Always take note of each precious soul,
    For some have entertained Angels Unaware.

    “Let brotherly love continue. Be not forgetful to entertain strangers:
    for thereby some have entertained angels unaware.”

  9. So much reward and so much sadness in your job. I’m sorry that you have to worry and be frustrated. And I am sorry that anyone has to go through what that dear woman did. You make all the difference in the world, Birdie.

  10. I’ve never seen a single ad on your blog. Have you thought of going to someone higher up to let them know something should be done for people that you care for? I know I would go over some heads to get things done. I guess I’m that type of person that does that sort of thing. I hate people that say their hands are tied or that they can’t do anything about it.

  11. I know in these spaces nothing helps. Until something does help and you couldn’t have sought it or expected to be back in the light until there you are knowing your life is beatiful. Glad you are sort of okay.

  12. Your blog looks great with the ads gone! I actually wrote a long comment, but looks like it didn’t go through. Now I don’t remember what I said! Probably something like, “I’m so glad this poor woman has someone like you coming in to help her.” You do an amazing job.

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