It’s Thanksgiving here in Canada and we went to my sister’s for dinner last night. It was a lot of fun. But sad too. First, we found out that my (step) sister’s brother-in-law and his girlfriend are having a baby in the spring. Though it won’t be a new family member for me it will be a new family member for my sister and that in itself is exciting. But it was also sad because of course the talk turned to sad things like North Korea and mass shootings and how far we as humans have gone past the tipping point, the point of no return. But. We were all surrounded by people we love. My (step) sister’s mom calls me her other daughter. My brother-in-law’s mom is so good to me and always gives me the biggest hug when she sees me. I am so glad to have them.
Last night I stayed up too late and today I am tired. When I got home from work I noticed how long the lawn is and decided to mow it. Mowing a lawn in October? That’s never happened before. But the nice weather continues and it feels like the longest summer ever. I’m not kidding. It’s cool out but it’s beautiful. Is it politically correct to call it an Indian summer?
Here is something new and funny. You all know that Norbert is an inside cat because he lacks the life skills to be an outside cat. Fluttering leaves terrify him. When he does escape and ventures outside he hides. But, being a cat he does like being outside so my husband put a gate up on our sundeck so he can go out there and watch birds. But now Norbert has chosen to live under the barbecue. It has a large cover that is too big so it hangs on the deck and now Norbert goes underneath it and sits on the little shelf. We are not sure why he now wants to live under the barbecue but he sits at the sliding door and cries and carries on until we let him out. And he goes right underneath and stays there until we flush him out and make him go inside. A few minutes ago I pulled the barbecue out because we want to use it and now Norbert is in a rage.
Today one of my favourite client’s went into palliative care. I feel sad for her husband. They have both been in denial and keep talking about when she gets stronger. I’ve seen it enough to know she will never get stronger again. Getting stronger again can happen to a person who is dying. They have ups and downs but, of course, go into a downward spiral as the body prepares to die. I am hoping her pain and nausea will get under control while in palliative care and she will be able to come home again for a time but she is so unwell. I call this time, “getting ready to die for real”. Because it’s a process. When someone is getting to die for real they are very ill, very tired and in pain. The body starts to shut down. The person becomes weak. They lose their appetite and no longer want to eat even their favourite foods. Pain is managed by the strongest drugs. Comfort measures are priority. At this time family often becomes very concerned about dehydration but it is actually a healthy part of dying. Forcing fluids at this time can prolong a painful process. Why am I writing about this? I don’t know.
So that’s it from my world for today. Happy Thanksgiving!